Things You Should Never Do Immediately Following a Breakup
After a bad breakup, it can be difficult to control the things that you do and how you react to the feelings coursing through you. Unfortunately, that means that it is very easy to do a lot of things that would only wind up hurting you more in the long run. There are so many things that you really should not do after a breakup that listing them all would be impossible. But there are a very few things that you must absolutely NEVER do after a bad breakup and at the very least you should keeps those few things in mind the next time you have to come to terms with the fact that you are single again.
Don’t Go Out On Dates Right After A Breakup
Something that a lot of people do right after a breakup is run into the arms of the next person that comes their way. Rebound sex and rebound relationships are a very large part of the dating culture. This is very unfortunate because rebounding is one of the biggest things that you should absolutely never do immediately following a breakup. Sleeping with somebody on the rebound
will not only hurt you in the long run, but it also runs the high probability of hurting the person that you rebound with. Rather than going for an immediate rebound, it is better to give yourself at least a couple of weeks to come to terms with how your relationship ended. Then and only then will you actually be in a good place mentally and physically to try and hook up with someone else and not destroy yourself in the process.
Try and Be Friends
One of the worst things you can do
Break It Off… Don’t Try To Be Friend With Your Ex
after a breakup is try to be friends with the person who just broke your heart. While people who were once dating can, of course, still be friends, trying to do so right after the breakup will only cause the both of you a lot of mental strain which can ultimately lead to the friendship being destroyed completely. Instead of pushing yourself too hard and trying to make everything perfectly normal again when it is definitely not, it is way better to just go your separate ways for a couple of weeks or even a couple of months before trying to hang out again. This will save you both the sever mental duress of dealing with each other right after getting out of a relationship.
Get Your Friends Involved
Don’t Get Your Friends Involved
Too many times after a breakup that involves two people with mutual friends, the two will try to get their friends to choose sides and pit the entire group against each other. This is literally one of the worst things you can do. When you go through a nasty breakup, your friends are the people who will help to keep you sane and grounded through the whole process. The last thing you want to do is to drive them away from you by being petty and selfish and forcing them to choose you over your ex
. Instead, you should try to keep repeating that you hold no hard feelings for them being friends with your ex, but you would just like to get things off your chest. Your friends will understand the hardships you are facing, so long as you do not make them choose sides.