You might be familiar with the signs. Endlessly wanting your attention, getting mad at every other presence in your life, and snooping through your things to make sure that you aren’t doing anything that they don’t approve of. These are the telltale signs that your partner is overly jealous. Jealousy can be a very oppressive force in a relationship. It’s good to be a little aware of other people around your partner and jealousy isn’t bad for a relationship in small doses. When your partner is overly jealous they can start to get too controlling. If you feel like your partner’s jealousy is getting out of control then it might be a good idea to start nipping that in the bud.
Confirming the Source of the EmotionFirst, rule out any other causes for this emotional spike. If you know that your significant other is having a hard time for other reasons then examine that as a source of their clingy attitude and suspicion. Know their history with cheating, such as a father who cheated on their mother, so you can understand if maybe they’re over sensitive to topics such as infidelity and suspicion. In fact, you have to understand that what you perceive might not even be jealousy at all. Once you do know then you can proceed to a step that involves sorting out the actual behavior.
Sitting Down and Talking About ItBefore you do anything drastic, such as breaking up with them, talk about the problems and what you’re noticing. Don’t bring up words like “jealousy”, “creepy”, or “overbearing” just yet. Try to be as vague as possible first by asking if they have anything they want to talk about and you feel like they’ve been a little different lately. As the conversation progresses you can add in specific examples and start adding in your concerns about jealousy. If they react poorly, reconsider your place in this relationship. If they are understanding, then see if the problem returns.
Making Them Aware of Their ActionsIt’s possible that even though you’ve had a talk with your significant other, the feelings and behaviors will still flare up in certain scenarios. It’s very apparent when someone has very blatant jealous tendencies so it won’t be hard to tell that your heart to heart talk didn’t stick like it should have. It’s wise to make them aware that they are repeating the problematic behavior while giving them reassurance they don’t have anything to worry about. It’s hard to stop being jealous completely and remember that jealousy is natural and good for relationships. When it starts to get out of hand again is the time to step in.
Knowing When Too Much is Too Much
It’s been said before but jealous really IS something that can be healthy for a relationship. If someone was all over you and your partner didn’t care, wouldn’t that be a bit concerning and possibly insulting? Jealous has a time and a place in a typical relationship. When it becomes something that is starting to stifle you and you feel afraid to even connect with others is when it truly becomes a problem.